“The key trend is longer parental leave. [And while that’s important], the challenge there is that doesn’t continue helping you throughout your working parenthood.” YES, this. It’s a direct quote from the Dear HBR Podcast episode: Are you Struggling to Balance Career and Family? interview with Daisy Dowling.
On the heels of yesterday’s post about the burden of household work, I came across this New York Times article, “Americans Value Equality at Work More than Equality at Home.” It’s parsing apart this study from the Pew Research Center on “Americans see different expectations for men and women.”
So on the good news (and common-sense): the vast majority of folks say that men and women should be equal in both “the public sphere of work and the private sphere of home.” But…
“Most say that while women should have the same opportunities as men to work…they should do more homemaking and child-rearing.”Claire Cain Miller, “Americans Value Equality at Work More than Equality at Home,” New York Times, 3 December 2018
When you read the Pew analysis of the study, “men face a lot of pressure to support their family and to be successful at work.” Hmmm. Let’s see. You know who *also* faces increased pressure to support their family? Who else might need and or want to be successful in their careers?
This morning I came across the NPR story, “Michelle Obama’s Take on ‘Lean In’? ‘That &#%! Doesn’t Work’.” Ahh, let’s take a moment and remind ourselves what it was like to have
Those were some good days. I miss the Obamas!
After her comments, though, now I am an even bigger fan of Michelle Obama. Not only does she curse (first ladies! they’re just like us!), but she reminds me of the very valid criticisms of Lean In, the ones that I too often forget.
In the not-at-all-news for anyone in grad school category, here’s a fresh take: “Graduate School Can Have Terrible Effects on People’s Mental Health.”
Intense work expectations? Check.
Lack of sleep and social life? Sure. But isn’t that the charm?
Little pay? Yup. When I was making $10k a year as a graduate assistant (in 2003), my dad once said: “I know you aren’t making much money. When I was getting my Ph.D., I was only getting paid $9,000 a year!” Reality check, Dad: that was 1971. When strawberries were 29 cents a pound. (Yes, I looked it up).
And when Ph.D. students weren’t saddled with the student loans of today.
Why wouldn’t grad students be plagued with anxiety and depression?
It’s that time of year. Black Friday, Cyber Monday deals… Right now everyone is looking for the best deals on something they’ve been hoping for. I secretly think we’re all out shopping for ourselves, rather than for someone else…but maybe that’s just me and I’m a bit too selfish. 🙂
But this time of year isn’t just the time of year to think about tangible gifts for your personal life. It’s also a good time of year to think about your professional development. Whether you have career wanderlust,
Your Career is Worth Investing In
Here are 7 gifts you could gift yourself to make your career feel fresh, to re-engage with your work, set yourself up for pursuing more challenging tasks next year, or just investing in yourself.
Mastering the workplace: An ongoing series in which we talk about work skills so you can rock your job.
I was in a meeting today in which I had to introduce and define impostor syndrome to some (ahem, male) colleagues, explaining how important it was and that this is a real thing. I’ll save you a google – impostor syndrome is SUPER common throughout academia, and is when high achieving individuals – often women – believe that they are impostors, waiting to be found out and walked out of the workplace. They “struggle to internalize their success…[describing] feelings of fraudulence because they do not attribute their success to their own abilities despite many achievements and accolades. Imposters see themselves as unworthy of the level of praise they are receiving because they do not believe they have earned such recognition based on their capabilities, causing heightened levels of anxiety and stress.” (Anna Parkman, “The Imposter Phenomenon in Higher Education: Incidence and Impact,” Journal of Higher Education Theory and Practice, 2016, p.52).